Over the few years I have made a conscious effort to become as honest with others as possible, a trait that I have found that others do not revel in as much as you would think, especially when it comes to white lies or hiding the full truth. If you think this is easy, just listen to the things you tell others or yourself for a whole day, recognise the number of times you choose not to disclose something for fear of hurting another or of judgement.
On occasions I have wondered if I have been too honest, brutally honest even, or on the opposite end of the spectrum, if I have been holding back in circumstances where I should be more honest about my thoughts, feelings etc.
How far should you go in being honest with another? Does it depend on the circumstances? If we lie about small things, what is stopping us from lying about the big things too?
Why people are not more honest with each other in the first place…and what differences would there be if total honesty was a known in our society?
Is it that we are scared of what might happen to us, thus our ego getting in the way of us telling the full truth? Are we dishonest so we don’t have to face up to things we perceive as negative.Wouldn’t it be better if everybody just let go, faced up to our truths and potentially experienced some kind of conscious growth as a result.
When it comes to the fear of hurting others, obviously it is not good to be unkind to others, but what also should be considered is that it is a person’s opinion of your words or actions which governs how they feel, not the actions themselves.
Ego and fear of change seem to be key here.
Personally, I think there is a lot to learn about ourselves from honesty, and the ways we treat others and ourselves. Change, although it can be perceived initially as negative can end up being a positive step, or least a neutral one.
How honest are you with others, and more importantly, yourself? Are there situations in which you wish you’d spoken up or been more honest, or are their times when you said too much due to a flash of insight which later turned out to be untrue? Would you have realised what you thought to be a truth to be untrue if you had first not said it? Following on from this, should we just say what we feel in the moment…all the time, sometimes or more often?